The thing about heartbreak is that you’re never prepared, even if you half expect it. Nobody tells you how bad it can hurt. Or how painfully slow the process of healing can be. Or how difficult it can be to make yourself trust someone again. How painful it can be to try and love someone again. Dealing with emotional pain from a broken marriage, or trying to cope with rejection; know that pain does not last forever. There is light at the end of the tunnel.
1) Turn to Allah
One of the biggest mistakes we often make is turning to material things in order to heal. We turned to people, things, and entertainment, literally everything that can help us forget. But Allah says in the Qur’an,“Verily, in the remembrance of Allah do hearts find rest.” (13:28)
Allah SWT is our only guarantee in a life filled with so much uncertainty. He is the only thing that is certain- so hold on to that connection with him and never let it go.
2) Let go of the past and don’t look back.
This is harder than most people think . It's hard not to look back especially when you share a child with someone. Somedays may be harder than others- but trust that sometimes we don't know Allah's wisdom behind why some people are removed from our lives. Trust when Allah SWT says : “But perhaps you hate a thing and it is good for you; and perhaps you love a thing and it is bad for you. And Allah knows, while you know not.” (Qur’an 2:216)
3) Give yourself a chance to love again
This is also hard, but "nothing changes if nothing changes". Know that Allah SWT wants you to be content and fulfilled. Although, this can seem scary at first- trust the process. Tell others that you are looking to get married and actively get involved in the Muslim community. Love is beautiful- don't allow yourself to miss out . Your past relationship failed not because you weren’t good enough or failed at love, rather because it just wasn’t meant to be. It’s as simple as that. You are very much capable of loving and being loved again. Do not let your heartbreak discourage you from wanting love.
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